When you’re considering divorce ― or reeling from your ex’s decision to end the marriageit’s easy to focus on the negatives: How will I possibly get by living on my own again? How will the kids be impacted by this? Am I doomed to be alone for the rest of my life?

    While those concerns are understandable, it’s equally important to focus on the good that can come of being single. Below, HuffPost Divorce bloggers share 11 reasons divorce is preferable to staying in an unhappy, unhealthy marriage.

    1. Marriage may give you a sense of security but divorce gives you a new lease on life.

    Staying in a bad marriage can provide security because at least you know how your life will go. But getting a divorce gives you hope ― the hope to be who you want to be, the hope to be happy and the hope to find someone else to love.” ― Barry Gold

    2. Being a single parent is better than modeling an unhealthy relationship.

    If you’re a parent with young kids, getting a divorce is better than staying in a bad marriage because these are formative years for them. They will likely seek out and emulate the types of relationships they see modeled. I want my relationships to be happy, healthy and mutually respectful, so that my children never settle for anything else in their own lives.” ― Lindsey Light

    3. Divorce clears the way for you to meet the right partner.

    “Divorce is painful but it’s kind of like pulling off a Band-Aid: The anticipation is horrible but once it’s over, it’s pure relief. Bonus: It allows you the freedom to meet the person you were meant to be with!” ― Al Corona

    4. You get to focus on you for once.

    “After divorce, you find yourself again and fall in love with the wonderful attributes that make you you. As a mother especially, you can parent with just your own mama instincts and all your love and energy can flow into your little one(s). You find genuine peace and happiness and an appreciation for life that may have been sucked out of you during your bad marriage.” ― Shelley Cameron

    5. Divorce isn’t the worst thing that can happen to your kids. Enduring a hostile home life is.

    “After my first wife and mother of my five children left us permanently, I felt like going through divorce was the worst thing that could happen to a family. So when my second marriage was falling apart, as my kids sole and single parent, I was desperate to protect them from the trauma of another divorce. As a result, I kept the family in a situation that wasn’t good for any of us. The reality is, the worst thing for your children is for them to live in a hostile home and have them see you unhappy. My life and my children’s’ lives have gotten better and happier with each passing day after the divorce.” ― Matt Sweetwood

    6. There’s a big difference between loneliness and solitude.

    “My divorce helped me discover the gift of solitude when I once experienced the pain of loneliness. Now that I’ve learned to enjoy being alone, I’m free from that awful feeling of separation that comes from being with the wrong person.” ― Tammy Letherer

    7. You and your partner may be stifling each other’s growth.

    I feel that divorce should rarely be the first choice because generally the only thing keeping a ‘bad’ marriage from being a ‘good’ marriage is sustained mutual effort. That being said, there are times that divorce is the best choice in order to allow both partners to grow and achieve the life they desire, and in some scenarios, the life they deserve.” ― Derick Turner

    8. A happier parent is a better parent.

    “Learning to let go and step into the unknown may be the single most important thing you can do for your own sanity and the sanity of those around you. Divorce proves that you have the courage to live a life of happiness. And if you’re happier, you’ll be a far more effective parent.” ― Carey Fan

    9. You can devote your energy to other important areas of your life.

    If you have done all the work of trying to make the marriage better and nothing is changing, finding the courage to leave and move forward pays off in the long run. The pay off? You stop putting all your energy into a relationship that no longer works and put more energy into yourself and your kids.” ― Cherie Morris

    10. You deserve a partner who’s just as invested in the relationship as you are.

    “Divorce is preferable to a marriage without love. We all deserve to be loved. I never want to be in a marriage where that partnership isn’t sacred and a priority.” ― Carly Israel

    11. You lose a spouse but you gain happiness.

    “Divorce brought me happiness. Life is far too short to spend it immersed in an unhealthy relationship.” ― Nicole Lavery

    Before You Go

    Books To Read During Divorce

    Is it better to stay in an unhappy marriage or get divorced?
    A 2002 study found that two-thirds of unhappy adults who stayed together were happy five years later. They also found that those who divorced were no happier, on average, than those who stayed together. In other words, most people who are unhappily married—or cohabiting—end up happy if they stick at it. more
    Do doctors stay overnight?
    For resident doctors, on-call typically means staying in hospital overnight (or working a really long shift) to care for patients. more
    Will crypto stay around?
    Bitcoin and ethereum are down more than 50% from their all-time highs in late 2021. While there have been small surges in recent weeks, the crypto market as a whole is largely stalled. While no one knows for sure, some experts say crypto prices could fall even further before any sustained recovery. more
    Can crypto stay decentralized?
    A world coexisting with Web 2.0 and web3. In some ways, crypto will remain decentralized while trending toward centralization in others, Schemoul said. more
    Do refugees stay permanently?
    If you are a refugee, you are required by law to apply for permanent resident status 1 year after being admitted to the United States in refugee status. If you are an asylee, you are not required to apply for permanent resident status after being granted asylum for 1 year. more
    Why do rich stay rich and poor stay poor?
    The Rich make things happen, the poor wait for things to happen. In a simple explanation: The Rich operates in Abundance mode, while the Poor operates in scarcity mode. Abundance – You give more because you are already in a better position, which in return attracts more returns. more
    Will Bitcoin stay down?
    Bitcoin's price is just as likely to fall back down as it is to continue climbing. The future of cryptocurrency is sure to include plenty more volatility, and experts say that's something long-term crypto investors will have to continue dealing with. more
    Do graves stay forever?
    Contrary to popular belief, graves are not kept around forever. The reuse of graves is nothing new because even in ancient times, it is common practice to inter many people in one plot. Documents indicate that even in the very early centuries, people in Europe reused and repurposed old burial mounds. more
    How long can you stay in short stay car park Heathrow?
    How long can I park in Heathrow Short Stay? The maximum length of stay for pre-book at our Short Stay car parks is 99 days. If you turn up and park on the day without pre-booking, you can stay as long as you like and will continue to pay the roll-up daily tariff. more
    Will mining stay profitable?
    Today, mining Bitcoin as an individual is rarely profitable unless someone has access to extra low-cost electricity. more
    Can authors stay anonymous?
    Can You Publish a Book Anonymously? Yes, you can publish anonymously, and many authors prefer to publish some or all of their books this way. But you should make sure that it is the right choice for you. more

    Source: www.huffpost.com

    You may be interested in...

    Can I gain a pound in one day?

    What does being in NATO mean?

    How do you measure a Rolex?

    Are hemorrhoids Serious?

    At what age can you work in Qatar?

    Is Little Tokyo safe?

    What restaurants do you make the best tips at?

    Is Ukraine a democracy?

    What is Ethereum in simple words?

    Can anyone become a lender?

    Do automatic cars have more problems?

    What can I substitute for eggplant in ratatouille?

    What is the latest Walmart delivers?

    How is monthly average calculated?

    What does it mean when someone gives you a cactus?

    About Privacy Contact
    ©2022 REPOKIT